Does she think this is a joke?
Monday, Dec. 03, 2007 - 3:18 p.m.

My daughter must think this is a game, a joke, and that she is going to get her daughter back by dressing up in a suit and saying all the things she thinks people want her to hear. I'm here to tell you, it's not happening that way. In the past I have not mentioned things to authority figures hoping she would just get her act together. Not this time. Dead-beat-dad (who won't even get tested to see if he is the dad and only wants to be called daddy when the mood fits him, LOSER!!) was living with J when everything went down. He is a part of the permanency plan. If he is going to be in J's life he has to be prove that he can be clean and sober and a functioning member of society. This is how J and he wanted it, because they reallllly wanted him to be baby A's daddy. Well, he screwed up about a month into all this, and went out and got high (on heroin) and didn't come home. J kicked him out, which was really the appropriate response and told everyone (all the authority type peops and me) that he was living in another state and she would have nothing to do with him. Next thing I know a week or so later she is wearing her "commitment" ring again. She didn't say anything about him being back in town. I didn't mention it to her, thinking she was just wearing it "because". scoff. (I truly can still be very naive when I want to be) Next thing she calls me up and starts rambling on about how she saw DBD at the courthouse and he didn't have much to say except he was working a program to stay clean. Time marches on, I think nothing of that. We went to court last week and baby A's GAL asked me if I knew DBD was back in town. I said I did know but J and he were not in contact. So... J is not supposed to drive, however, she gets to my house (2 to 3 hour bus drive on a good day) by 8:30 every Sunday morning for a visit. scoff, again. I figured she had just been driving herself and parking up the street. S decides to do a little recon this Sunday. Drives up to the grocery, store a few blocks away and loe and behold there is J's car. HOWEVER, it's not just parked there waiting for my daughters return. DBD is sitting in the drivers seat!! What the ****??!!!! Doesn't she get it? She is lying to everyone. She has lied to me about just bumping in to him. She has lied to everyone (GAL, social worker, probation officer, mental health counselor, family advocate/drug and parenting counselor) about the fact that he is in fact back in town, they are in contact. Hell, they are more than likely living together!!! I truly believe he is the one that abused baby A. She won't narc him out, he won't admit it, she won't even admit that she was too high to know if he was hurting her child. Yet she choses to hide the fact that she is seeing this person from everyone. S told me to hold off till next week to say anything to anyone. He wasn't 100% sure it was DBD. Next Sunday he is going to go back up there and knock on the door and make sure it is him. Once he is sure I will be telling every single person involved in this case. I will not be complacent about this. I will not allow baby A to go back to J as long as this person is in her life and she choses to lie about him and not even think about the fact that it could jeopardize her chance of getting her daughter back. I'm sorry. There is NO person on the face of this earth that would get in the way of me getting custody back of my children (not that I would ever let someone be a part of me losing my kids). Why would you chose someone like THAT over your kids? He's a loser!! He won't even take a paternity test because he doesn't want to be held financially responsible for her if he is. He doesn't want to take the test because he wants to be a fair weather daddy. And he's a SHITTY one at that!! God, the whole thing makes me see black and basically makes me sick to my stomach. Every time I try to believe my daughter and have a little bit of faith in her she pulls some stupid stunt like this.
I guess I just need to be resigned to the fact that baby A will be staying with us forever.

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