and so it goes
Tuesday, May. 06, 2008 - 8:16 a.m.

Hey there!
Hope you had a great day.
I've been thinking about everything today. My mind has been spinning since the day I read the email you sent to A.
You know... I have so many things to say, still. I'm just wondering if you guys aren't jumping the gun? I'm not saying it's not your right to up and move to anywhere you want to. But I hope you keep a few things in mind. Maybe Ashley wants to keep things the way they are. Maybe she doesn't want to know for sure if she is your daughter. Ultimately it is her choice at this point. Maybe you should see if she wants to have some sort of relationship with you before you pack up and move out here.

You really need to sit back and think about ALL of the lives you are going to affect by coming out here, by trying to pursue a relationship with her. Her, for one. Her dads. Yours. Your wifes. Mine and my husbands, my grandkids. Yes, you can sit back and say I was supposed to tell her 23 years ago that I thought you were her dad. I didn't. But... neither did you. You have known her name all these years, and not once did you step up and say hey, I want to be a part of your life until now. Why now? That's what I'm wondering.
I just think you need to let HER make the next move. Wait, and see what she comes back with. Let her be the one to say, yes I want to know, or no, I'm good with the way things are now. I'm not so sure she is willing to stir the dirt. I don't know. But that's her call.

I'm just putting my thoughts out there. Take them for what they're worth.

All I know is that you opened a door that I'm not sure you were quite prepared for. Whether it was contacting her or ending up talking to me.

Anyhow, just letting you know how I feel about these things.
Have a good evening.
Me

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